It all started about a week ago with my daughter posting on FB that her father bought them candy with "HIS Own $" Bragging about it...ok so my BF posted that that's something that most people do everyday...something he's done all his life. She got rude and snotty and told him (on FB) that she'd have more respect for her father than she ever would for him. When she got home I confronted her and told her she was very rude and disrepectful towards Jerome...he's provided a roof over her head, hot water, heat, electricity, you name it (her father hasn't contributed more than $100 towards bills since Jan 1st). Jerome's bought her clothes and you name it...she has free access to his computer etc...she doesn't have to ask for anything if she needs it he gets it for her.
Well after I told her this she apologized to both me and Jerome...and I thought all was done...
Oh no...the ex couldn't let it go at her being corrected.
This is what I found on FB just a few min's ago...
"How sad it is that people can say whatever they want to about me to my kids, but if my Daughter gets on here and defends me, they attack her tell her she needs to show more respect and force her to remove the post defending her Dad. They must be very insecure indeed"
A few sympathy responses and then some more
"Apparently, the Ex's Bf was speaking ill of me and Bethany wrote something on here in defense of me(I never even saw it) anyway someone told the Ex and she made Bethany remove it saying she was being disrespectful the the BF."
few more condolances from his "friends"
and the final post from him...
"thank you all. Yes, Carol, I too have to be reminded sometimes where my inner peace comes from. In the end, they only harm themselves, as the results of many past attempts have proven."
I so want to go confront him with this nonsense...take it right to him at the homeless shelter...in front of the pastor and everyone he's still managing to give his pathetic little sob story to.
Thanks for listening...had to vent or I might implode while sitting here.
Wow... it sounds like he's an idiot... >.<
' hugs '
I think everyone in the situation is being immature... Just saying. I can elaborate if you want me to.
Thanks....I've never been this mad in my life...
And Airashii if the shoe fits...he is beyond an idiot.
Whoa...wait a minute...
Please do explain...
Creepy... those comments sound a bit like my dad. :/ This kind of stuff makes me growl inwardly too.
I agree with Lily Turtle. It sounds like you are all in a very difficult situation and are kinda focusing on the wrong things. My uderstanding of your exsplination was that your daughter was happy that her father got himself together enough to have some money saved up to buy her something that would make her happy. I hope that all of you adults can figure out things so that your daughter is not caught up in the middle. I do actually agree that manners are importiant but you should remeber that it is not just kids who need to practice good manners, us adults do too.
Your boyfriend should have kept his comment to himself.
Your daughter loves her dad. Maybe it hurts her a little that he doesn't help out much, so when he does do something for her, it makes her happy. Youth of today post stuff on FB.
Daughter, probably got angry that your boyfriend was trying to 'undermine' her father's attention, and she spoke what she feels.
Dad... Was probably just seeking attention and sympathy/ranting... Just like you are now.
I don't see you in there, other than making her apologize. So I don't count you as in the situation..
Ok...I do see your point (somewhat)...
I concur on the manners...and yes my fuse is incredibly short right now.
I've had to deal with double bills for the last 4 months...having to fight to pay them while he takes my son's SSI check and blows it on whatever he wants. (yes my son is living with me). I don't go around saying things about him...don't post nonsense on FB or anywhere else. I taught my daughter better than that and she came to me and apologized and went to Jerome on her own and apologized to him. She removed the post...no one forced her to. If she wanted to leave it up so be it....is her FB page and I can't make her remove posts.
*shrugs* perhaps I'm wrong in being "tired" of being the "bad guy" being attacked for my behaviour and pointing out what I see is the "wrong way" to treat people who have done nothing more than go out of their way for you.
Why does he get that check? If he isn't contributing to the family, then he shouldn't be getting it. And what about child support? I am very confused about the whole thing. >.<
I'm confused too. He's in a homeless shelter?
I have no need to conform to the stereotypes that others have defined for me.
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My Ex is currently living in a homeless shelter...he gets my son's SSI check. I've already talked to SSI and they claim he's given them(SSI) proof that Lucas' bills are being paid.
I do not have physical custody of my kids...and am still paying child support to him even though they have not spent one night in his custody since Jan 1st. He refuses to write off the support I owe for even one month.
It sounds like it's time for you to go talk to a lawyer.
What Smudged said. Sounds like he is wringing you and the family dry and has no consequences.
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They're probably right about the lawyer stuff. With that in mind it's best to keep the family business off Facebook.
Remember that everything that goes on the internet is possibly/probably there forever and can be completely misinterpreted in the future.