PonyIsland

OK, so I'm in college and I made a friend/crush (lets call him "Prince Charming" because I don't really want to use their real names) we would flirt back and forth all the time, (even got asked by a couple of friends if we were dating, but I had to tell them we weren't dating) and we got really close and the closer we got, the more I started to like him. We got so close I was falling hard for him until....

I was going to hang out with some friends I've met at college, I checked my Facebook as usual and my friend's status caught my eye, my friend (call her J) stated she was bored and wish she had someone to hang out with. I felt bad for her because she lived out of town so I invited her out to hang out with me and my college friends so she could meet some new people and she would sleep in my dorm room and she would drive home in the morning.

All went well. Me and her went outside to cool off and she said to me "The Prince Charming guy is cute". I said, "Yeah, I like him too, kind of have a crush on him...hard core". She just nodded and we went back in. We all moved to a nearby place to go dancing and have a good time. Prince Charming took J out to the dance floor and started making out with her in front of me. I didn't think much of it, she knew I liked him and nothing may not spark.

A few weeks later, There was a concert provided by the club that Prince Charming was apart of at the college. J got free tickets from her mom since her mom worked at the college, but she took my other friend (call her Shelly) so I ended up buying my ticket at the door which costs more. I visited Prince Charming in his room just before the concert. It was only 7:00pm and the concert didn't start till technically 8:00pm. So me and Prince Charming were going to wait to go at 8. I got a text from J saying her and Shelly were at the concert already. I told Prince Charming what the text said and he said "Oh really? Let's go now" and made me go. We got there and decided to play a game of pool then I found my friends. He sat by J, and put his arm around her. The concert started... a bit into the concert I glanced at them and they were kissing.... again. I left. Prince Charming got mad at me for being jealous (so was Shelly) he told me to grow up and leave him and J alone. Then he called me and told me a dark secret that no one knew, he failed at committing suicide because he was so unhappy in his life, I hung up crying, knowing I hurt him, he called back and told me not to tell anyone and I promised I wouldn't and he said "I am actually happy with her, why can't you accept that?"

Prince Charming told me he was going to take J out on a date on the weekend to a fancy, expensive restaurant just before he blew up in my face. Again, I didn't think much about it, I thought to myself: "They might decide that dating won't work because its the end of college and they live hours a part from each other" A couple of days later -10AM- I got a text from Shelly saying "Did you know that Prince Charming and J are dating! Its so exciting!" I wasn't excited. I wanted to be happy for them but then I thought about my happiness...

I never ever fell this hard for a guy. Everytime I see her or him and even him and her together, I feel like I want to cry. J said she isn't mad at me, Shelly is a bit but I don't get why because its not about her and Prince Charming was furious with me for a few weeks, now a days he doesnt really talk to me anymore. Why do I have to fall so hard and why do I have to be so jealous?

Anyone else had a similar situation?
PS the title is suppose to say heart break, not heat break haha

Crushes are hard. I would wallow in it, watch movies of either a sappy or angsty type. Eat some confort food and have a bubble bath. Then the next day go out and live your life. No one can make you do anything you do not want to do. That includes feeling down. You are in college so there will be plenty of boys. Go have some fun with a few. If it was ment to be with prince charming then it will happen.


Remember the 'Prince Charming' from disney movies are rather dime a dozen, hold out for your hero

Yes i used movie quotes... And bad ones at that.

Did they make you smile?

Awwh *hugs* i know its rough, trust me i know. I went through the exact same thing with a boy i've loved for 8 years.
Like you he told me his deepest secrets and confided in me but all i felt was angry and hurt by the fact he didn't like ME :/ but after 5 years of us being best friends he realised he loved me. We've been together for 3 years, we are best friends and together.
Try not to get too upset over it and do other things like hang out with friends or do some artwork, it helps to keep busy. *squishes* i know its hard :/ i had 5 years of misery with my boyfriend going out with 3 other girls so trust me i understand.

Any of his friends cute and smart?

Alright, I've been in almost the exact situation many times >.> Though the guy fitting your Prince Charming ended up falling for me and it was just the person fitting the one you call J leading him on.

My friend would date or try to date every guy I told her I had a crush on almost immediantly after I told her. There was one guy I truely had fallen for- but unlike Prince Charming, he was much kinder about it. She was horrid to him. She dated him twice and dumped him within a day both times. From your story they hardly knew each other- worst way to start a relationship.
Eventually I stopped telling her.

I also have a friend like your Shelly. This friend sided with the other friend all the time, no matter how horrid she was to me. I was always wrong.

Though my version of Prince Charming always felt sorry for me because he felt bad for rejecting me every time I told him how I felt. Eventually he realized what she was doing to him and left her alone. She would post facebook statuses proclaiming her love for multiple men and adding 'I love -name- so give up on me Josh!' - Josh being my version of Prince Charming.
So the girl did everything in her power to keep him away from me. In fact, she tries to ruin my friendships now that her first plan isn't working. She lies about me to my best friends. Anything to ruin my name and elevate her own.

Now I'm not friends with her. I keep away from her as much as possible, and I told the other friend to stay out of it and stick to things she actually knows something about. She manipulated Josh to date another girl. Going so far as to claim the girl would go into depression if he didn't, and then she asked other people to tell him he and I would never last and instead that he should date the new person.

A man who treats you like that isn't worth it. They never are. Josh actually changed. The girl didn't. If he ever learns some proper respect then maybe he will be, but a guy who treats you like that... I don't understand how you can still like him.

As for your friend J... It would have been nice to talk it over with you.
And Shelly doesn't sound like a real friend. At least J is being nicer about it.

WildCard: As the full story isn't given I cant exactly agree with you nor stand up for her, but I don't think the guy named 'Prince Charming' is exactly being all sugar and cream with his treatment of her.

From paragraph one, he played with her heart and then ran off soon after with someone he hardly known- and it's a bit harsh making out with someone in front of someone you know likes you, so she has fair reason to be upset. And as I stated in my post earlier, it really would have been nice of J to have at least spoken to her about it instead of having Shelly rub it into her face, like my friend did to me. I mean, from what she wrote, they knew each other for a day. One day. Less than that, actually.

Though again, I don't know each side of this so I cant be certain.

... I really don't know why you still like someone who acts that way towards you. .__.

Somnium and Wild are correct. Somnium is right that you should have made a move. IN this entire situation (while I have a shred of pity) you seem to just be whining about how your friend liked him too. Tough. It's going to happen. Lots of girls like the perfect guys, cause they are perfect.

I had a situation like this, with my current boyfriend. But he liked me for me, so it worked out. Maybe if you had moved in and told him how you felt, you could be the one with him. As it is, you didn't. You live and learn. Next time, when you know you like someone, tell them, otherwise they will find someone else. And who knows, maybe he isn't a good guy to date. He sounds a bit cruel, but you also sound a bit needy and pushy, so I don't know how to tell you to fix it.

Maybe you should just chill and go find someone who isn't interested in someone else? I mean, do you actually like this drama?

It boggles my mind people who pursue someone who's simply not interested in them. Sure its a blow, but you adapt and move on, that ship has sailed. If you keep it up, people will begin to suspect you have stalker tendacies, including the boy which would only lead to the opposite effect of what you want.

Ah. I see now. Well then I agree with you, Wild. Hadn't noticed that.
Now I see why they're mad ._.

There are plenty of single guys out there to hangout with. I'd advise getting to know a guy first before you are crushing/ falling for them hard.

Make sure they aren't in a relationship already or cheating because that doesn't end well for anyone only causes more heartbreak, anger, sadness.

You might meet some other guys in College? Go see a movie or something?